Everybody Fights : So Why Not Get Better At It

Internet video sensations and podcast hosts Penn and Kim Holderness share how they fight better and end arguments feeling closer, more loved, and better understood by their partner.

Have you ever gotten in a bra fight? (No, not a bar fight, a bra fight.) Kim and Penn Holderness have-a knock down, bruised-heart, lick-your-wounds brawl that started off with a perfectly harmless question about chicken wings. Every couple has these fights, the kind that go from zero to dialing a divorce lawyer before you know what hit you. They leave you feeling cold, resentful, and terribly alone. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

The Holdernesses that are seen on social media are goofy, funny, and joyous, which has earned them the adoration of millions of fans. But when they started noticing comments on their videos that said things like “You are the perfect couple” or “#couplegoals,” they thought, “Who us? These people want to be more like us?” So, they decided it was time to stop being polite and start getting real about what really goes on with any couple who seems to have it together.

With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their ten most common Fight Fails and how to combat them, with additional guidance from Pastor Chris Edmonston on ways they can improve and change to solve issues. At the end of each chapter, the Holdernesses give couples a script for how to start, continue, and wrap up hard conversations. Couples will close the book equipped to engage and understand, not do battle. And maybe laugh a little more along the way.

In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to:
*Conjure the magic of meta-communication
*Break free of secret contracts
*Run a P&L (prayer and laughter) analysis on your marriage
*Banish the three D’s (distraction, denial, delay)
*Carry your own baggage and help your partner with theirs

Penn and Kim want people to know they’re not alone-that marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it.